3rd Anniversary


Let me first just take a moment to chuckle at the cringe worthy edit haha (oh the shame!). So here's an interesting post. In light of my 3rd anniversary I thought I'd share three marriage tips for newlyweds from a wife's perspective.  Let's get this straight, I clearly have no authority on this topic! However this hasn't stopped me in the past, so why should it now? hah.

1. Acceptance in any relationship is key! Don't ever try to change the person you're with. It's a recipe for disaster. As soon as a man feels you're trying to change him (even for the better) it's going to backfire. If you do, you may notice your husband being defensive or even irrational. An amusing example is when I try and feed my husband veggies he doesn't like. I keep persisting it's the 'best option'. To him this seems disrespectful as he really doesn't like it. The more I try to change that fact the more resistant he is. The best way is to allow your partner the freedom to be themselves fully. You married them for who they were, not what you can mould them to be. As much as in pains me to say this. Let them make their own decisions. 

2. Get a life! So this goes for those that put all their worth and happiness into their partners. After the glitter and sparkle of the wedding fades, some women can be left feeling a bit lost. You might think 'hey this dude is suppose to go out of his way to make me happy!'.  I'm not saying he won't, but it's your job to make yourself happy. Do things you enjoy. When you're living your ultimate life, you'll have a glow that won't wear off.

3. Love languages. So we all have certain ways of showing love and appreciation. There's things we prefer, from quality time to supportive words. You can find out what your love language is with this quick online test, ask your husband to take it too. This will help you make sure you're truly speaking his language. If you'd rather just ask then go ahead! You can then make sure you're showing your love in the most effective way to them. Obviously you can probably relate to all of the following love languages, but mainly there's around two that are more important to you than the rest.

The Five Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation: Expressing affection through spoken affection, praise, or appreciation
Acts of Service: Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love.
Receiving Gifts: Gifting is symbolic of love and affection.
Quality Time: Expressing affection with undivided, undistracted attention.
Physical Touch: With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch.
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7 comments

  1. Totally worth the cringe factor for the fact that you managed to capture the steam on your tea! Beautiful photo! Happy Anniversary. Great tips!

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    1. Haha thanks Emma! Though I can't take credit for the steam as it's part of the edit :P

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  2. Best wishes to you both on your anniversary ! Thank you so much for sharing this with us ...

    Real relationships, including marriage, are when you don’t have to pretend to be someone else ... this is what so many people fail to understand or act upon ... we have some sort of common saying here .. umm it is like girls are taught two times in life, one by her father and another by her husband. Don't laugh at this , but it is really what so many ppl out there ( including women) are believing in, and thats why i walk around the streets and see so many unhappy marriages... " cuz ppl want to be liked for being someone they are not"!


    Happy anniversary!

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    1. Thanks Ali!

      I'm interested to understand the concept of being taught once by your father the other by husband haha. I truly believe we learn from everyone we meet. In one way or another. Perhaps I misunderstood the saying.

      As for being liked for someone we're not, I think ultimately hurts the person themselves. In my post I was mainly referring to accepting the person you're with as that's the purest form of love. If I person doesn't feel their partner accepts them for who they really are, they can become very bitter.

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